You are soon to be an Introverted Bride!
But the traditional wedding day as shown in media might make an Introverted Bride as yourself feel uneasy, anxious or even completely out of character.
You want to get married, yes.
But a WEDDING? Oooooof.
Like “a grown up Sweet Sixteen with liquor and cousin/friend hookups and chocolate fountains?”
I mean hey, that sounds super fun to me.
But this is your journey and what you want, which, may not be that insanely awesome thing I just mentioned.
Calling the shots and having people follow your lead isn’t the role of an Introverted Bride.
There seems to be this weird disconnect in your role because;
-you’re not a fan of the spotlight and the first dance or continually speaking with guests seems like it’ll be hella weird
-being a Bridezilla is literally a parallel universe where you’re in hell, and
-you just wanna get married
Here’s a quick guide for you to help navigate being the Introverted Bride you were born to be with unwavering confidence, so you can enjoy your day as you see fit.
1.) Live Your Truth
What a powerful position to be in. When society tells you to zig, but you zag.
Just because you’re an Introverted Bride doesn’t mean you’re any less of a bride.
It’s not better or worse, it’s just different.
Different in a way that reflects your desires, interests and reality.
Being grounded in a place that allows your values, authenticity and special sauce to shine is a MOOD.
A true feat.
Acting just like The Best Badass Bride.
You’re not going to need external validation or feel pressure to act a certain way to fit a role.
Isn’t that a pillar to confidence?
To comfortably and colorfully be yourself, without regard to other’s opinions or judgments?
If you would rather be that Introverted Bride who isn’t;
- needing receptions on the moon,
- bouquets arranged from flowers plucked from the Garden of Eden or
- cake boss-esque creations with a topper depicting you on your first day years ago, then live that truth!
Be okay with behaving how you see fit, it is your day.
2.) Know introversion isn’t about lacking confidence
I’m sure you’ve associated being an introvert to obviously hating people or fearfully cowering at social settings at some point.
So an Introverted Bride will obviously cower at their own wedding, right?
Well, that’s a common misconception about introverts.
The psychological definition of introversion is the tendency to be concerned with one’s own thoughts and feelings rather than external things.
So sure, all the bells and whistles or accouterments that come with traditional weddings may not grip you.
You’re likely more concerned with how you’ll feel on your big day and what being married signifies.
The common misconception is probably fueled from the perspective of how extroverts view introverts.
This also falls under living your truth.
With this slight perspective shift on what introversion is….
Do you even lack confidence?
When you’re aware of your own personality, it speaks to how you can it use it as a strength rather than a hindrance.
So how would being concerned with your own feelings instead of external things look like as an Introverted Bride?
Write a list of all the things through that definition.
3.) Keep that bridal party small to mitigate overwhelm
I feel this one is a pretty obvious one, but deserved to be included.
Since you get to decide who is and isn’t in your party, it’ll probably serve you to keep it more intimate, right?
If you even want one.
If things get too crowded, overwhelm and anxiety could Creep like Radiohead and menacingly stare at you…
*like a weirdo who doesn’t belong here*
Because of your own doing.
So, don’t do that!
An Introverted Bride can keep cool by selecting that ill squad of Bridesmaids, ones that don’t fuck up wedding weight loss
The Introverted Bride guide in 3 simple steps
Live that truth
Know what introversion really is
Don’t put yourself in a possible overwhelming position by keeping that bridal party small or removing it altogether.
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